THE iKiFit BLOG

Join iKiFit founder, Kim Macrae for inspirational and thought provoking topics around all things, education, life choices, self empowerment and assessment - set to challenge us all to be the best version of ourselves - Every Single Day in lots of little ways!
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Qualified Life Coach and Fulltime working mother of 3 - Amy takes you on a journey of how iKi SRL has empowered her through the most challenging times of raising 3 children and remaining a model of what it means to be happy, healthy, strong.

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Learning resilience.

Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Resilience is a matter of habit

Firstly, a big thanks to my regular readers. As you’re aware, each weeks’ blog is around a word from the song “Every Single Day” which mentions some of the many ways we can make each day a little better.

In this weeks’ blog I’m taking a break from that format but sticking to the theme.

I’ve just finished reading Joe Williams’ new book “Defying the Enemy Within” and was amazed at the number of great adjectives that can be applied to it.

The book is a great read, fast paced and engrossing. Joe outlines his childhood with humor and humility and shares the excitement, the ups and downs of his impressive sporting career. He is articulate, honest and humble.

He deals with his substance abuse and mental health issues openly and bravely and takes us on an involving journey to where he is now – making a powerful, positive contribution to all Australians. His advice on how he stays positive, healthy and highly functional is clear, inspirational and truly helpful.

His comments that the Australian nation as a whole can learn much from the First Nations, if we will just listen, is visionary and timely.

Great job Joe. I’m proud to be a friend and fellow Australian.

Kim


 


Clean your plate.

Thursday, February 15, 2018

Clean your plate

Opinions differ about whether it’s best to eat everything on our plates or to stop when we’ve had enough. Some say that eating all the food put in front of us can make us obsessive or encourage overeating.

However, I grew up on a farm with 4 brothers and subscribe firmly to eating everything I am served. I think it’s a principle that we can apply to most areas of our lives – i.e to learn to manage ourselves, set achievable goals and to finish what we set out to do.

Serving up a healthy portion at each meal and finishing what’s there is a way of learning to take responsibility for ourselves and our decisions – and to complete what we start.

If you are trying to cut down on your calorie intake, just eat from a smaller plate. There’s lots of psychology in eating, as in everything else, and when you see you’ve finished what’s on your plate, you know you've had enough. It's about making the right choices in the first place.

Learn what and how much is right for us, be satisfied with what we choose and tidy up after ourselves. Clean our plate.

Job well done every time.

 

 


6. Investigate

Tuesday, February 06, 2018

“But why Mum?” That nagging question can be annoying but is part of developing – and maintaining - a healthy mind. Encouraging children to explore and investigate doesn’t just help set them up for a rewarding life, it can help extend the quality and length of life as well. And it applies to people of all ages, so don’t be afraid to go along for the ride.

Lots of research – as well as common sense - tells us that the best way to stay young is to act the way young people do.
Stay curious, investigate, keep learning, be interested, be involved, join in.
Practise and model the good behaviours of young people.

If the tap won’t stop dripping, have a look and see if you can fix it. It might be easier than you thought. Or it may challenge you in such a way that you develop a whole new set of skills.

And being interested is a great way to strengthen family bonds. Try asking these two questions over dinner with your family:
1. What was the best thing that happened to you today?
2. If you could, what would you like to change about today?
This way, you’ll learn more about what the ones you love are doing and what makes them happy or sad.
Also, you might find out about an issue like playground bullying before it gets out of control.

We’re never too young or old to learn, in fact when we stop learning we get old in a bad way.
Curiosity may occasionally kill the cat ---but much more often it prolongs and improves life.

Have an awesome week, 

Kim. 


 


5. Dedicate. Do something hard.

Wednesday, January 31, 2018

 

2018 is well and truly under way, now that Australia Day  is behind us and we’re getting back to school and work routines.

This weeks' word is “Dedicate”: I’ve been stressing for weeks about what to write - and then it all became clear when the Australian of the Year awards were announced.

The winners have dedicated much of their lives to things they love and believe in.

I’m excited because 2 of the 4 category winners are teachers: The Australian of the Year, Professor Michelle Simmons, is a teacher and researcher, and Eddie Woo, Local Hero is a visionary high-school maths teacher. It’s great that we're recognising and valuing teachers, who play such an important role in nurturing tomorrows’ leaders.

I’m also excited and inspired by the message given by Professor Simmons who says “Quantum physics is hard. Technology at the forefront of human endeavour is hard. But that’s what makes it worth it. I believe that the things that are most worth doing in life are almost always hard to do- but when you succeed the euphoria is immense”

When we dedicate ourselves to doing something hard, we often have to sacrifice other things – luxuries, time off, holidays – but the rewards can be immense.

Let’s dedicate some time and effort to doing something hard this year. Think of how we’ll feel when it’s done.

We’d love to hear about the things that excite you: things that you’re passionate about, that make you feel rewarded, valued and respected, or that you feel 'just need to be done'.

Have a great week.

Kim. 


 


Welcome to 2018!

Tuesday, January 23, 2018

I hope you have had a relaxing, re-energising break and are excited about the year ahead.

Traditionally, this is the time of the year for revising our priorities and resetting our goals – or to use the old-fashioned phrase, for making New Years’ Resolutions. While the phrase may be ‘old hat’, the idea is sound – that we take a break and re-prioritise.

Normally, New Years’ resolutions cover things like doing more exercise, eating better, spending more quality time and so on – and traditionally they don’t last past the second week of February.
But like most things, there are ways to make resolutions stick. The trick is to find what works for YOU.

I’ve found that the best “resolution keeping tool” is to continually monitor my attitude, and to remind myself, when necessary, that ‘It’s up to me”

 


 
When we blame others for our problems, shortcomings or disappointments we cancel any chance of personal growth. To work, a resolution has to be practised and reaffirmed regularly, so please try this with me: Let’s remind ourselves daily that what happens to us – how happy healthy, strong and successful we are, is up to US alone. Yes, things outside our control occur all the time, but the attitude we take and the choices we make, determine what happens next.

Let’s keep at least one New Years’ Resolution this year. Let’s say to ourselves every day: It’s up to me.

Happy 2018.

Kim.


Happy Holiday Season

Thursday, December 21, 2017

 

The final run up to Christmas is just what we’ve come to expect: Summer has arrived with a furnace blast, we’re in a mad rush to get everything finished in time for the big day and if things can go wrong they have. If we’re lucky enough to get time to reflect it can be easy to wonder: Does Christmas herald a time of fellowship, good cheer, love and family – or is it a commercial orgy of anxiety, consumption and manic stress?

It’s like most things in life – it all depends on how we look at it. What we choose to focus on. Yes, this time of year can be a “crazy busy’ rush to get everything done. Stress, struggle strain. Or it can be a satisfying time of putting a full stop on the year, tidying up loose ends, being grateful for the good things that have happened and the people who have enriched our lives.

I must admit, there were times in years past when the greenie, pinko whinger in me ranted about the “capitalist excess” the fake “peace on earth” and the silly stress. But I’ve learned to get over myself and focus on the wonderful elements of Christmas: the commencement of Summer break, celebrations with family and friends, time to spend on gratitude, catching up and rest. I know of many friends and acquaintances who are going through awful health and life challenges at the moment. My heart goes out to you and I wish you all the very best – luck, health and love.
Also, a huge thank you to the many people who have supported, worked with and encouraged myself and iKi.
There are so many wonderful people in my world. Thank you.

Best wishes to everyone for the New Year - the time to celebrate that most fantastic of all human abilities – HOPE.



Next year will bring endings, as well as beginnings. No doubt 2018 will have its’ challenges and some bad things will happen. That’s life and always has been, but opportunities will arise, and great things will happen as well. Things will happen that are beyond our control - but our attitude and actions will determine what comes next.

I’ve learned to regularly remind myself how very fortunate we are to live in this place and time. Even 20 years ago, many health conditions were untreatable that are now routinely beaten. Opportunities are endless and most of us live in safety and comfort. We can find much to complain about if we try but our system works, most of the time. We live in a crazy world and some Aussies have it tough, but speaking for myself, I think most of us are SO lucky.

And we have hope.

I’m taking a break and will return in mid January. See you next year.

Happy hopeful holiday,
Kim.

 


4. Learn to Relate

Tuesday, December 05, 2017

For those of you who have just tuned in, this series of weekly blogs are inspired by the lyrics of the song Every Single Day.

Click here to have a listen, and if you like, you can grab it on iTunes https://itunes.apple.com/us/artist/iki-crew/id1260100883

 

Learn to relate.

Human kind is made up of myriad colours, national, ethnic and cultural groups, not to mention different body shapes, genders, religions, fashions, fetishes, etc, etc, etc. But we are SO the same. We all want to feel safe, respected, valued, loved and secure.

Learning to relate to others can be one of the most life affirming things we can do, for lots of reasons.

The Dali Lama teaches many things to help us live more productive, satisfying lives. His key lesson is to: “Exchange a self-centred attitude for one of thinking more about others. It is much easier to handle our problems when we realise everyone else has their own. A problem shared is a problem halved”.

It’s easier to get along with each other when we focus on the things we share in common. Our likes, needs and dreams are similar, and even our differences are less than we think they are. All it takes is the effort to look past the “packaging”. And not only does relating to others add to our feelings of happiness, it can impact on our health and safety.

Creating positive relationships in our personal and professional life can bring enormous benefits. How we speak and what we choose to say can either make people feel valued and understood, or disrespected and marginalised. And let’s not forget that the way we treat others tends to come back to us.

Our behaviour really matters.

We humans share 99.9% of our DNA. We are (MUCH) more closely related than surface appearances may suggest. Think of others as like ourselves and it builds better relationships. After all they are our relations!

“Treat others the way you want to be treated” Not for nothing is this called the ‘Golden Rule’ or the ‘Rule of Life’

Or in the words of the iKi Rulz song,

“Treat each other nice today – you will earn respect that way”

 

Have an awesome week everyone,

Kim.


 


 

 


Be Persistent - Never Give Up!

Thursday, November 30, 2017

 

There is a ‘saying’ in real estate that there are 3 key ingredients to success; Position, position, position.
In achieving goals there are three as well. Persistence, persistence, persistence.

The Battle of Britain ranks as one of the great stories of beating the odds. The British Air Force were outnumbered by more than 3 to 1, yet they beat off their attackers. That historic victory was led by Winston Churchill, Prime Minister at the time, who said - “We will never, never, never, give up”

I remember years ago the world was shocked when it was revealed from private diaries that Mother Teresa suffered lifelong attacks of doubt. We shouldn’t have been surprised, as she was human like the rest of us. We all suffer doubt and fears sometimes.

Recently I was at a point where I needed a boost and happened on this poem in Paul Hanna’s book “You can do it”
I liked it so much I printed it out and read it regularly. I hope you like it too.

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill
When the funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile but you have to sigh
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest if you must but don’t you quit

Life is strange with its’ twists and turns
As every one of us sometimes learns
And many a person turns about
When they might have won had they stuck it out
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow
You may succeed with another go
 
Often the goal is nearer than it seems
To a faint and faltering person
Often the struggler has given up
When they might have captured the victors cup
And they learned too late when the night came down
How close they were to the golden crown
 
Success is failure turned inside out
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt
And you never can tell how close you are
It may be near when it seems so far
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit-
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.
 
Remember, success is a journey, not a destination.
Kim

 


3. Educate

Tuesday, November 21, 2017

Educate

This weeks’ blog starts with a couple of quotes, followed by the results of a research project that make a powerful point. 

Somebody older and much wiser than me once told me that “the best investment you can ever make is in education.”
Another person, whom I didn’t take a lot of notice of, at the time, said “the main point of formal education is to learn to learn”.

Finally, the results of a recent study, - was that 6 months after spending a relatively large amount of money (several thousands of dollars) on either a new gadget or an experience (holiday, education, activity) “the people who invested in the experience reported much higher levels of long term satisfaction”.

Remember, the people who bought the gadgets still had the goods, while the ones who’d invested in the “experience” had nothing material to show for it. But they were happier with their investment.

Why? Because they had grown in skill, confidence, life experience. As a result, they were empowered, having learned - or reaffirmed - that the more you do, the more you can do.
And that can improve “quality of life” a whole lot more than material things.

At this point in the discussion let’s consider that education isn’t necessarily about going to school or doing a course, it can include practically any situation where you challenge yourself - travelling to new places, interacting with new people, broadening your horizons. DOING things that involve active engagement, new mindsets and/or some kind of change.

This week, do something educational. Learn something new. It can be as simple as opening a dictionary and looking up a new word, through to embarking on a university degree. It can be as quick as Googling information about a place you’d like to visit, right through to learning the language, planning and going on the trip.

Education isn’t just about facts and figures, it’s about ability and confidence. The knowledge that we can learn, grow, and take control of our lives.

We’d love to hear your thoughts. If you have any stories, theories or insights about education or experiences to relate, please share them with us - flick us an email admin@ikifit.com.au

A couple of proverbs to end with.
First for the pupil. “When the student is ready the teacher will appear”
The second for the teacher. “When you teach, you learn”
Finally, for all of us. “Tell me, I forget, show me, I remember, involve me, I understand”

Have a great week!

Kim. 



Look, Listen - put that technology down!

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

 

Recently I was doing some additional hours from home on an urgent work project and was frantically juggling my work hat, domestic hat, wife hat and mum hat, all the while with a deadline looming over my head.

I had set Mr. 3 up in the lounge-room near me, around me, just not on me! - to play happily on the floor whilst I kept plugging away at my work.

Every now and then he would come up and show me the latest masterpiece he had built with his bright coloured bricks. Each time, only a few bricks differed from the previous sample.

Over a period of half an hour I obviously got a bit less enthusiastic with my responses of "Wow, aren't you clever, can you build something even bigger for Mummy" or "Cool, Buddy you are such a big boy being able to build that all by yourself" - or at least they must not have been to an acceptable standard, as suddenly Mr 3 was sitting up on top of me, squishing my face in his hands and pulling my head towards him.

I stopped what I was doing and looked at him, trying to breathe and not lose my temper, as the 'deadline pressure' washed over my whole body.

With my squished face like a ball of play dough in his chubby little hands, he eye balled me and in his most 'teacher-like' voice said "Mummy, Look, Listen & Learn Mummy. You not listen to me Mummy".

I said "I'm sorry darling, Mummy has been busy doing my work and you have been such a good boy playing by yourself while I do that. Why did you say I need to 'Look, Listen & Learn?"

Mr 3 said "I was talking a you and you not looking at me, you not listen to me Mummy. I love you this much (stretching his arms out wide) BUT you need to listen to me and look at me when I tell you".

NOW - Firstly can I just point out - how early the iKi Rulz stick for a child when embedded from an early age (both at home and at long day care - I can't take all the credit). Secondly, how brilliant that my Mr 3 understands how to apply them, and to voice how my behaviour is making him feel.

SO - What do we learn from this? It's like the saying goes "Do as I say, not as I do" Except not, it's "Do as I say and as I do" If we expect our children to grow into the happy, healthy, strong, respectful, contributing members of society we so want them to be - then we need to show them what that looks like. Because they ARE watching and they ARE listening! And they ARE learning all the time!!

When we ask our children to look at us when we are speaking to them, if we expect them to not continue playing their technology, then we must do the same. If we ask our children to use their inside voices and use words not actions to describe how they are feeling, then we must do the same. If we want our children to grow up to respect themselves, their siblings, their neighbours - then we must do the same.
So, in case you need some help with the basics, like I did (thanks Mr 3 for the shake up) - here is a little reminder:

1. Look, Listen, Learn - look and listen and you will learn and allow others to learn also.
2. I'm Ok, You're Ok - treat others the way you wish to be treated.
3. No Play, No Play - if you don't play by the rules there may be consequences.
4. Eat Well, Live Well - eat a healthy, balanced, nutritious diet and you will live a happy healthy life.
 
To get some help implementing these core life values into your home and get the whole family working as a Happy, Healthy, Strong
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Enjoy your week, Active Aspiring Amy.