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Note to self...It's up to me!

Thursday, September 18, 2014

The BIG iKi - Wednesday 5th November @ 12 noon

We all know our children are our future. We need your help to help us improve student outcomes in schools. Please.
It’s a simple as 123 ABC :-
1. The Big iKi is to highlight the powerful impact effective student engagement, clear, consistent guidelines and strong leadership can have on students futures. 
2. The Big iKi shows how technology and community partnerships are helping change our schools for the better.
3. The Big iKi is to help kick off the Safe Respectful Learners (SRL) Workshops Tour in 2015
How you can help for FREE :-
A. Grab something to use as an iKiStick You can make your own or you can purchase one before the day online at our iKiStore
B. Organise yourself or your whole office or school to join you
C. Click onto the website on the day.5th November at 11. 50 for a 12noon start on a smartboard, PC And do the 12 minute energiser.

Finally, send us an email to let us know you are taking part in the day so we can send you out all promo material associated with the event and catch up with you to see how the event went. 

Note to self.. It's up to me!

I’m guessing there aren’t many of us, when we’re being honest with ourselves, who won’t admit to having spread the blame when something hasn’t turned out as we hoped. 
Anybody who has teenagers in their lives encounters the buck passing phenomena on a daily basis. This can get painful when family members make poor choices but will take no responsibility for the consequences.
I recently came across a quote in a magazine article (about something completely unrelated) that read, “When we go to judgement our maker doesn’t ask anything about family. We are judged on ourselves alone” 
Meaning, of course, we won’t get a chance to blame our siblings or parents!
It struck a chord, so I was excited to read the following article at Flying Solo http://www.flyingsolo.com.au/ about an hour later. The headline was ;- 
“ Every time you start to complain about something, stop. Think about how you can take control of the situation and be accountable for it. ”
Their suggestion was that whenever something isn’t going to plan, use these two words ;- 
No. Excuses.
The premise for the No Excuses Mindset is simple. Every time you start to complain, stop. Think about how you can take control of the situation and be accountable for it. The author goes on to give 3 reasons why having the No Excuses Mindset can make you more successful and resilient. 
1. You will get what you want – faster
Have you ever said these words or heard someone else say them? "They haven't returned my email".
Or “I asked them for help and I’ve heard nothing back”

In this situation, ask yourself these questions:
• Do people sign a contract that says they will return my emails and calls? No, so therefore it’s my responsibility to email or call, not wait.
• Is our priority the same as the person we are asking for help or information? Often it isn’t, - in which case it’s up to us to do the follow up – or find another way to get the task done.
• If we need something done that involves somebody else, we’ll get it faster and easier if we take responsibility and “chase it up”.
2. It makes your success repeatable
When you start to make excuses about what other people do to you – or don’t, there is one big problem. What happens to you, good or bad, is not repeatable.
Conversely, if you adopt full accountability, you can analyse root causes for any situation that is within your control to ensure that your success is repeatable, and your mistakes aren’t.
Not accountable
"He didn't call me back, but finally did after two weeks. Why are people so slow?!"
Accountable
"When I follow up my emails with a call within two days, I always get a response within a week." 
3. Fear will subside
The best part about being fully accountable is that you remove the fear of not knowing. Not knowing how your customer or friend will react, not knowing if they'll call you back, not knowing if xyz will happen.
For the first time, none of these questions will matter because you will be in complete control.
You will have formulated repeatable strategies to create the outcome of your choosing.

In other words. No. Excuses. It’s up to us!

And how much nicer to be able to share credit rather than blame.
Taking responsibility for our own health is easy. A 12 minutes iKi Energiser done 2 or three times a week will soon add up to a new, energised you! Join now

All the Best,
Kim Macrae

DO Talk to Strangers!

Saturday, August 23, 2014
One of the things I’ve always admired about my Dad is his willingness and ability to talk to anyone, anywhere, anytime.When I was a child this was sometimes irritating, because of course I had better things to do than wait around listening to boring adult talk. But as the years went by I appreciated his attitude more and more. Not only was it interesting to connect with new people - and surprisingly often led to exciting developments - I learned some profound life lessons. It dawned on me that everyone wants to be liked, trusted and valued, but often hold back because they are afraid!
  
Growing up in a small country town it was normal to know and talk to everyone, but as I started to travel to other towns and then cities I realised that we are trained to NOT engage with strangers - not just from fear, but from a basic misconception ;- Others look, speak and dress differently, therefore they ARE different - and may well be dangerous. We’re taught to be afraid. And the media does nothing to change this – quite the reverse in fact. All news outlets know that bad news sells better than good and as a result 87% of information we encounter on an average day is negative. Yes, it’s been researched!

The bad news is brought to us from all over the world - but we internalise it and as a result, view our surrounds with a fear vastly disproportionate to our local reality. We hear a news story about someone approached by a “man in a white van” and fear there are predators in every street. The reality is there is on average one, that’s 1, successful child abduction in Australia every year. That means the odds of YOUR child being taken is 1 in 6,000,000. Yes, one in six million. But our perception is that it’s almost certain if we let our child walk around the block.We’re bombarded nightly with crime shows and find ourselves believing that every suburb harbours at least one garden variety murderer, and every second one a deranged serial killer.

Ask people if they think we’re safer now than our forebears were 50, 100, 200, 500 years ago and they reply ‘No, today’s world is more dangerous’. The reverse is true. We live twice as long on average than we did 100 years ago, not just because of better medicine and OH&S. Murder rates in all of the western world have steadily, consistently and constantly dropped for the past 700 years - from around 80 per 100,000 per year to less than 3. That’s 3,000% less chance of being murdered in our beds – or anywhere else.

We all “know” that city people won’t engage with strangers. But - using my dad as inspiration - I always make a point of striking up conversations – on public transport, in the street, at cafe’s, anywhere - with strangers. Occasionally I’ll encounter initial suspicion, but almost always am answered with enthusiasm, kindness and interest. Some people are overwhelmed that someone makes the effort to be friendly.

I remember an incident when I was 15, sitting in a public lounge watching people walk in the door. It dawned on me that they were just like me..a bit shy, unconfident and not wanting to stand out. Just like me they were all scared - of stranger danger, rejection, criticism. And just like me they wanted to be liked, to be treated as if they were interesting - and they wanted to meet and engage with interesting people.

One time, a friend and I were trying to get to China town in Sydney, late at night in a taxi. The driver had no clue so we got out in a dark street in a seedy suburb in disgust. We had no idea where we were but saw a group of men about our age hanging around some cars outside a run-down pub. They looked scary to us. Big, tattooed, shaved heads---which in those days was something only “thugs and sailors” did. They watched us as cautiously as we felt about them, but we walked up with apologetic smiles, telling them we were from the country and lost. 10 minutes later they dropped us outside a restaurant in China town they recommended, with thanks, smiles and handshakes all ‘round.

Of course, there ARE people ‘out there’ who will take advantage if we let them, but the overwhelming majority of strangers are just like us. Caring, friendly, interesting people who want to be respected and trusted. Just like us. People who want to live meaningful, loving lives - who may be someone who’ll have a positive impact on our lives. Somebody special we just don’t know yet.

All the best, 

Kim.

Want to change the world? Make your bed.

Thursday, July 24, 2014
Start your day in a definite way.

I was intrigued by the headline above - (SMH May 31)  and was hooked after reading the first paragraph.

Writer Jenee Osterheldt had this to say.

“I made my bed this morning. And that’s rare. Unfortunately. As I straightened out the blankets, tucked the sheets just so and fluffed my pillows, I shook off last nights’ sleep and my constant resistance to being a morning person. This tiny task had a big benefit: It woke me up to the day, to the possibilities ahead”

Jenee went on to say she was inspired by a speech given to a graduating class at the University of Texas by US Navy Seal Admiral William H McRaven, who said, “If you make your bed every morning you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride and will encourage you to do another and another. By the end of the day that one task completed will have turned into many tasks completed. Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that little things in life matter.” 

He continues “If you can’t do the little things right you’ll never do the big things right. And If by chance, you have a miserable day, you will come home to a bed that is made - that you made - and a made bed gives you encouragement that tomorrow will be better”

It resonated strongly with me because, like the writer Jenee, I had gotten out of the habit. Now I’m practising it again and it’s energising. Just like doing some exercise, it gives me a physical and mental boost. No matter what else happens in the day, I’ve achieved something positive. And one good thing leads to another.

What was it our parents said? – “Tidy your room” The great thing is – make your bed and you’re already half way there.

If you want to change the world, start where you spend almost one third of your life – your bed. Make it happen.

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When our weaknesses become our strengths.

Saturday, June 14, 2014

We've all heard the phrase 'Blessing in disguise' and are familiar with stories of people overcoming amazing odds to achieve great things. And we all have our own stories of challenges overcome - to achieve our goals or help us identify and stay on our life path.

Those blessings in disguise are the things that afflict us, the 'misfortunes' or accidents that happen, that with the benefit of hindsight or thoughtful perspective, we come to recognise as positives - as they have helped develop our talents, recognise our strengths, or put us in the right place at the right time.

I was a normal enough farm boy growing up but when, in my late teens, I 'discovered' TaeKwon Do (TKD) and found my path in life as an instructor and teacher - I also learned to my horror that I had degenerative arthritis in both hips. This wasn't great news for practising TKD which requires super flexibility, particularly in the hip joints.

There were times I became discouraged, depressed and angry (why me??) by the pain and stiffness. I had to do a lot of extra work, stretching and conditioning, to do things others found easy.

After some years, however, I recognised this as my own blessing in disguise. My "problem" had forced me to discipline myself-something I hadn't done before - and the extra work I had to do made up for a lack of athletic talent, as well as helped overcome a natural inclination to be lazy.

Another affliction that I've been blessed with is a spectacular intolerance of certain foods. Eating them has unpleasant results better not gone into here. There were times I felt I was missing out, but viewed from another angle it's a real blessing, as having stopped eating those foods has resulted in my eating much better overall. Outcome, better health.

I remember years ago when my wife was forced out of a job which seemed at the time to be the end of the world. Now she is SO grateful it happened as it provided the impetus - and opportunity - to find her true path.

So when things aren't what we may wish, we have 3 options ;-

Identify it and be grateful for that blessing in disguise -sometimes hard when we're in the thick of it.

If it's all too much take some time out to get perspective.

Then, we can take a breath and Suck it up.


Give yourself permission to SHINE!

Saturday, May 24, 2014
They say the teacher appears when the student is ready.

I recently did another workshop with Rebel Black -The Hungry Spirit

It wasn't all comfortable. After all, working on moving onward and upward involves risk, possible pain and definitely hard work. Things we all appreciate from a distance but don't always want to experience first hand. 

Part of the workshop preparation was required regular readings of some of Nelson Mandelas' Inaugural Speech, as follows;-

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. 
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually who are you not to be?
Your playing small doesn't serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others". Nelson Mandela 1994 Inaugural speech.

I know personally that the biggest thing holding most of us back is that nagging voice that tells us we shouldn't get "too big for our boots." That voice that makes us afraid of standing out - afraid of what others think.

That voice that can sap our energy - or gives us an excuse - to not do the work necessary to create and support our dreams. The often hard, challenging work we need to do, to get to where we want to go.

Martha Graham said "it's none of our business what others think about us." Kind of empowering.

A bloke I've know for a few years amazed me a few weeks ago with some rap songs he's written, but he wanted to get someone else to sing them because he didn't think his voice is good enough. It definitely is, he just needs to get used to the sound of it - and remember that he's his own worst critic, like the rest of us. The great thing is that after a bit of encouragement he's practising, improving and that energy is spreading. THAT's what living the dream actually is. Self doubt, yes. Struggle, totally. Effort, yes. But the doing it, is success in itself, no matter the outcome. Go Nathan. 

Remember, Sing Your Own Song . And to read a great take on "it's none of our business what others think of us click here

This week give yourself - and all around you - permission to shine.

All the Best,

Kim

Take optimism with a pinch of paper

Thursday, May 08, 2014

How to insure your optimism.

Those of you who have missed my musings over the past few weeks, please accept my apologies. For the foreseeable future I’ll be writing fortnightly, which will be more manageable for us all : )

This fortnights’ blog is inspired –in fact largely written by - Sam Leader, who co edits the great website Flying Solo. She says; - “Most of us will chose hope and positivity over its’ opposite any day of the week. But at times optimism can bear it’s teeth and bite us on the butt".

Optimism is generally agreed to be a Good Thing and is even associated with greatness. The oft-quoted poster sourced from a 1997 Apple advertisement states “The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do”.

But being optimistic can cloud our judgement and lead us to underestimate what’s needed to reach a goal. As a result, we can be underprepared and overexposed.

Part of the popularity of the UK house renovation project show ‘Grand Designs’ is to watch such falls from grace. “ Well Kevin” says the typical couple “We’ve budgeted £100,000 and want to move in by Christmas.” Then as sure as eggs are eggs, you see a shot of the incomplete project and a despondent-looking pair owning up to more than doubling their project time and budget’. That’s life. It’s mostly much harder to achieve a goal than our fond dreams and Hollywood lead us to believe. We jump through one hoop just to be confronted by another obstacle. On the other hand, satisfaction and lasting value only ever come from hard work and challenges confronted and overcome.

But before we undertake any goal, and at regular intervals on the journey, we should take some time to properly examine where we are and what is needed to successfully continue. That way we can better decide to put our heads down and tough it out, or to shift our focus to somewhere else. The trick is to know when.
Over 90% of people never achieve financial independence. It’s no coincidence that same % don’t ever write their thoughts, plans or goals. It can be literally the work of minutes. The process of WRITING our goals –or our deep life questions - helps clarify what we want to do in the first place, the difficulties we will encounter and the steps we need to take to overcome those difficulties and ultimately achieve the outcome we want. Sometimes, you’ll want to go for it sometimes not.

At the end of this SMART Goal sheet you’ll be asked if it is worth the time, effort and money.  If you still think you can do it, you probably can. It may be a lot harder than you think. It may not change the world, - but it sure can change you. And think of the satisfaction you’ll feel and skills you’ll learn from overcoming those hurdles, hoops and challenges.

All the Best, 

Kim. 

Play your Part....or Fake it till you make it

Wednesday, February 26, 2014
What’s one thing sociologists, marketers, Hollywood producers, politicians, teachers and the ‘person on the street’ all agree on?

That we humans love stories – and use them, consciously or unconsciously as roadmaps for our lives.

It’s probably been that way since the dawn of man. Our ancestors would sit around with the rest of the tribe, clapping with joy at the pictures drawn in the dirt of how the hunters managed to bag the woolly mammoth they were all now gnawing contentedly on. Then they would gasp with horror to learn how uncle Ugg was impaled on a tusk when his spear proved too blunt and his feet too slow.

Then, as now, stories provide important information about the world we live in. They warn or thrill, inspire and advise, motivate and help us imagine and set goals.

These narratives help us decide how we should look and behave, what to avoid, when to speak or when to run, the rewards we can hope for or consequences we will suffer, dependent on our choices or actions.

To bring this analogy right up to the minute, we choose our favourite book or film, be it Neighbours, The Simpsons, or Fifty Shades of Colour!  We then take on some of the characteristics of our favourite character and mock or shun the ones we don’t like.

The Logies season is here again and we are told that the best actors practise some form of method acting, “immersing themselves in their characters, to the extent that they stay in character offstage or off-camera for the duration of a project”.

They live the part. And there is the theme for this week. Have a good think about our character and make sure we are playing the role. Sometimes it’s about acting. Fake it till we make it, sometimes it’s about looking at our role model and asking, “What would X do?”

On one level it’s just that simple. We’re all playing a part. If we’re genuine about becoming a great footballer we practise and model ourselves on a footballer we admire – who has achieved their goals. We copy their training patterns, eating patterns, thought patterns, to help build our own character.

This week think about how you want the story of your life to go. Are you writing the script or are you being swept along like an extra?

I’m thinking about how I want my story to end, and thinking about what I need to do to make that happen.

I’m  writing a happy ending and WORKING towards it.

And I’m remembering to be careful what I wish for.

Enjoy the rest of your week. 

       

 


Ask and You Shall Receive

Wednesday, February 12, 2014
I finished last weeks’ blog with a promise of sharing an experience I’ve had that shows the value of being open to the world around us.

Before I continue, I will disclose that sometimes I’ve doubted this wisdom. I’ve always prided myself as realistic, pragmatic, and yes, a bit sceptical - in a positive way of course, I’ve added to myself.

After all, the world is a big, tough place and there are lots of dangers out there.

This attitude can conflict with the belief that good things really do flow to those with an open mind and heart, - and so there have been times I’ve struggled with it.

My dad has always been a great inspiration and example to me. There are many lessons I’ve learned (sometimes by initially ignoring them, to my detriment) from him. But one of the habits I’ve always admired,  that he practises brilliantly even at 90, I’ve finally taken to heart.

He will always go out of his way to say hello and find something positive to say to everyone he comes in contact with.

The thing is, it invariably brings smiles all round, but can lead to much more ;-

I was having a coffee with son Nick in Bondi a couple of weeks ago. We were discussing his upcoming three months holiday in South America and the fact that he was keen to sublet his flat for the duration.  A simple thanks for the great coffee developed into a conversation with the waitress who, she soon revealed, was looking for a flat closer to her work.

Two doors away is pretty close. And the great thing was we had already observed that she was a hard worker, neat and organised. Could be a perfect match.

Ask and you shall receive.

I’d love to hear any personal stories you have of similar serendipity.

By the way, the word serendipity means good luck and good fortune. And the point I’m making is that our attitude and actions help us make our own good luck and fortune.

Please share. And have a great week.

       

 


Dream, Believe, Act, Achieve

Tuesday, February 04, 2014
Last weeks’ blog finished with the proverb “ The teacher appears when the student is ready”. That’s certainly true for me at the moment. Tomorrow I commence two days of ‘Outside the Box Bootcamp’ with Rebel Black

It’s important to remember that the lessons the teacher has to impart may not necessarily be things we want to hear, but rather things we need to learn.

I’ve been talking to Rebel for years and she’s been encouraging me to do certain things. I knew she was right, but I resisted. I just wasn’t ready. Too challenging, too painful and it might not work -and then all that effort would have been wasted.

Which brings me to a desk card thingy on my desk called ‘The Daily Motivator’ which I (very) occasionally use. It has a card with a thought for every day of the year and you’re supposed to turn it each day and get motivated.

Today I flipped it and the proverb was totally apt - “First of all you must believe, but most of all you must ACT as if you believe”

It’s easy to be sceptical. I’ve been sceptical much of my life and know for sure that when we’re sceptical we always have ready-made excuses for NOT acting. On the other hand, I’ve seen so many times that when we decide to believe with all our heart and mind, and ACT like we believe, things just fall into place.

They. Just. Do. It’s a “vibe” thing. And more.

Next week I’m going to tell you about some of the things I’ve witnessed that have - finally - convinced me to stop the scepticism and let things flow.

Meanwhile, I have some homework for tomorrow and have to act on it - so here’s some homework for you.

Think of one thing you really believe in. Just one. I’m not even going to give you any hints. You decide.

Now, what action does that belief require? If you’re already doing it you know that it works.

But I bet you’re like me and have some beliefs you’ve let slip in the follow through department.

So. Now. Dare to try. Believe it. Act on it, - continually - and see it happen.

Remember “continually” is the key, and that Anything Can Happen!

Have a great week.

All the Best,

Kim

       

 


Who is Our Teacher?

Tuesday, January 28, 2014
When we stop learning we start to die.

Most of you probably know I am a teacher by trade and may also know that teachers are occasionally accused of being a bit, shall we say, “know it all”......

I know – ha ha – I’ve been guilty of that, but it really struck home late last year when I was attending a seminar conducted by an ex student, Nigel McReaddie, who trained under me for his first Black Belt many years ago and has since gone on to be a world renowned instructor and official in Koshiki Karatedo.

When we were discussing the seminar afterwards, Nigel remarked at “how much I had forgotten” his message wasn’t about how much I had known - but how much I had stopped learning and as a result was going backwards, fast.

To make the lesson even more obvious I was in the office of another ‘old’ student of mine, Anthony O’Leary the Principle of St Johns’ Primary school, and Subak Martial Arts School -  discussing plans for the coming year, when he challenged me by saying it was time I upgraded my professional qualifications.

The exciting thing is that since hearing - and acting - on those timely lessons, I feel ten years younger. I’m invigorated by being a student again, by the challenge of learning new things - and yes, the know it all in me just has to add -  relearning things I had forgotten.

Among other courses, I’m  taking a class every week run by Anthony’s son Zac O’Leary - kind of a student of student of student - figure it out, and I’m loving that most of all.

Remember the old saying. The teacher appears when the student is ready.

I’m loving being a grasshopper again.

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