Teaching Our Kids

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Battling along as parents is enduring and often unrewarding. When we think we have our kids worked out, they throw another log in the middle of the road for us to trip up on.  Parenting can be exhausting and lonely at times, as in protection of our family we often feel that we can't express our concerns to others.

I've been thinking a lot about how to be a good parent recently.  It's heart wrenching when your five year old son's teacher calls you in to chat about his "wayward behaviour", and real cause to address what is going on with this child.  It seems his mother - yes me - needed to have a look at how she was parenting, and discovered a few hard truths.  

Remember the old saying, "do as I say, not as I do"?  I've determined that just doesn't work.  Well I guess if you take into the account their new found love of swearing, then it actually does work.  It's hard to scold your child for their slip of the tongue when five minutes earlier the same word fell out of your mouth.  I tentatively put my hand up in admittance to this crime.  Explaining that adults sometimes use "naughty words" doesn't quite cut it with a five year old.   So what I learnt in a not so pleasant way, is if we as parents don't live what we preach, our words will fall on deaf ears and possibly create rebellious hearts.  It is vital we impress our principles and values on our kids, and talk genuinely about them.  Our kids won't catch the truth by osmosis.  We have to talk, and not in monotones that they'll tune out, but in natural language, at natural times and in natural ways.  Like when you're kicking the ball around the back yard, reading a book or eating dinner.  Even while indulging in some iKiFit!

Unless there was an instruction manual that I missed out on at child birth, it's pretty certain we will make mistakes along our parenthood road.  Kids are kids.  We create boundaries, they test them.. and test them and test them.  But kids are resilient, and we just have to be consistent and fair in our discipline, teach our principles and overall let them know we love them.  

Equipping our kids is tough work, especially when we're not perfect ourselves.  But I think as long as we're genuine about what we believe in, our morals, and in teaching right from wrong, our kids will be empowered to be the best they can be.  

 - Thoughts by Honorable Hayley (iKi Team Member)


Saturday, February 05, 2011

- from September 2010

iKiFit will develop, manage and implement training, capacity building, development, mentoring and leadership for 12 identified social housing residents from the Dubbo area.  This is an exciting project that will see an opportunity for our youth to gain employment as instructors with iKiFit, as well as enhance confidence and skill levels.

As a result of support and funding provided by Housing NSW Building Stronger Communities, iKiFit will be targeting individuals aged 16 and 25, with an emphasis on Aboriginal and social housing residents. 

iKiFit is seeking the assistance of local high schools, as well as employment and service providers, in promoting the project to our target group.  We will provide demonstration days, workshops and mentors to encourage individuals to become participants in the iKi Crew project.

The iKi Crew project will initially run over a seven-month period in which participants will undergo intensive training and refining of skills, and will be able to identify appropriate certification training in line with this. 

iKiFit provides fitness, wellness, mentoring and behaviour management designed specifically for our youth. iKiFit combines elements of martial arts, dance, and aerobics to create an interactive fitness program that equips and enables.  We are thrilled to be able to partner with Housing NSW Building Stronger Communities to develop our unique iKi Crew program.  The ultimate aim is to empower our youth with employable skill sets, and the capacity to obtain employment.

Happiness is a Habit ... Part I

Tuesday, December 14, 2010
Two Dingos
One evening an aboriginal elder told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, "My son, the battle is between two dingos that live inside us all.
"One is Evil - it is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego.
"The other is Good - it is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which one wins?"
The grandfather replied simply, "the one you feed."
Sing your own Song, and take responsibility for your own happiness.  The two dingos do live in all of us, and we all face the ongoing struggle everyday of which dingo we will feed.  It is sometimes easier to feed the evil dingo by our thoughtless actions and unrealistic desires.  Food for the Good Dingo can be more obscure, so there are times when this dingo gets a little hungry.  
We need to peel back the veil that prohibits us from seeing beyond our self and look further than the neighbor's new car. Yes, food for Good is stopping to help an elderly woman cross the street, listening to your child, cleaning the house, preparing a meal with your loved ones, feeling the rain on your face after years of drought, the sun rising in the morning.  Good is not just doing what is moral, it is as the cliche states; "stopping and smelling the roses."   Take a deep breath, appreciate the small things, and remember that happiness is found within you, not outside you.
Here's some food for Good.  Smile.  Smile today, because it is a gift worth giving, and a gift that keeps on giving back.