Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Joe Williams BoxerI’m going to deviate slightly this week from our usual “Word of The Week” blog theme.

The reason is, we have been doing lots of talking over on our facebook page lately about the “Sometimes” song.  And I really wanted to share some the back story with you.

The song was written almost two years ago in response to a period of intense grief - in an attempt to come to grips with life. Some of you will have seen early versions of the video clip. If you have, please take the time to look and listen again. Along with some new images in the video, there is now a guest singer who appears from the second verse who takes the song to a whole new level.

 It’s a tune about light, dark, good bad, happy sad, love and loss - and redemption.

It's about celebrating the diversity of life and remembering that no matter what is the words of the Dali Lama “This too will pass”

 It’s a reminder and affirmation that we ALL have good days and bad. That’s life and the universe.

Joe Williams has experienced the highs of playing for the Rabbitos, the Bulldogs and France at 1st grade level, as well as boxing at a high level and of being a hero and celebrity. He has also experienced intense lows from the loss of some of those things.

Joe now has lyrics from "Sometimes" tattooed on his chest.

When I asked him why he felt so strongly about the song he replied:

“I am a person who relates my life and how I feel to Music. Having said that, from the minute I laid eyes on the lyrics to 'Sometimes' I immediately felt a connection.

The song relates to feelings & emotions -to who we are & how we feel. To me, Sometimes, directly reflects how I feel & act everyday and knowing that everyone has, and is entitled to have a bad day. I related so much to the songs that I felt I had to have it tattooed onto my body - as a reminder that every day, somewhere, someone else is struggling and I am not alone in this! And it's OK.

But there are also great days and they will always come again as long as I look after myself, follow my dreams in a disciplined manner and keep the perspective. This is firmly imprinted on my chest - I see this reminder every morning.”

Please have a look at the video and see for yourself why Joe is so attached to the song - and it to him. And please share it.

Meanwhile remember what that wise old guy said... “This too will pass”

Here comes the advertorial; - iKiFit offers activities and tools we can use to manage the challenges and the moods - and make our lives better - to keep up our strength so we can handle the ups and downs, the challenges and opportunities when those "sometimes" occur, as they inevitably do.



Peace of Mind. Every Single Day.

Friday, May 18, 2012

Firstly, my apologies for the two week break since the last blog,  and secondly thanks to those people who responded to the suggestion we find a way to encourage more people to talk publicly about how they manage and overcome depression. I've posted several of these and will discuss it further soon.

Today's blog addresses the issue obliquely;

It seems to be a part of human nature to continually strive to improve ourselves one way or another. Unfortunately for our peace of mind we are designed to rarely be satisfied for very long. I'm sure most of us have experienced the old pattern; the new couch soon needs a new coffee table, which needs a newly decorated room...soon we're talking a whole new house...

So much so, that the whole focus of sections of our communities and government is to foster continuous growth. Without it we face recession or depression with the resultant job loss and pain.... 

Fortunately, as we know, there are other ways to satisfy our yearning for improvement that don't require continuous "consumption" of services and products ---art, sport, education,music, hobbies and all sorts of personal growth strategies.

Just to throw something a little different into the mix, I'm launching a little project right here, right now. It's totally free and goes like this. Each week I'll send a Power Word, a short explanation of how to use it and encourage you to do something about it that day. It really works for me, (when I do it) and can be fun for all the family. Seriously. And it costs nothing but a little thought.

This weeks' word is "Communicate". I've always believed that half of the worlds' problems would just go away if we made more effort to talk calmly, clearly and thoughtfully. Today, communicate clearly to someone. Tell them something that's been on your mind or that will help them in some way. Before you do, be sure to think clearly  about the outcome. If the result will be good, do it.

Did I mention it starts with a song? This song has lots of Power Words and it's free. It's called Every Single Day

How Can We Start a More Open Conversation About Depression?

Friday, May 04, 2012

I attended an excellent presentation on depression given by Lisa Champion at the Filex Fitness Convention recently. The focus was on how helpful exercise can be in the management/healing process. A theme also touched on was the benefit many sufferers report from hearing other people talk about their experiences in dealing with the condition. There is no doubt that this can help them feel less alone and to see that there actually is hope.

However, we all know that depression is still commonly a taboo topic that many people are reluctant to admit to, or discuss, particularly in public.

Even though 20% of the population are afflicted at some time in their lives and that it is spread among all levels of society, the term “mental illness” is shameful.

While there is no doubt progress is being made – (those over 65 barely can talk about it at all) I would like to suggest we can learn something for the example of gays “coming out.”  Although there is still debate over elements of gay rights there is no debate that the example of prominent and respected people ‘coming out of the closet’ has helped alleviate the fear, isolation and shame experienced by many gay people.

Is it time we invented a tag, a euphemism, for “coming out” about having personally experienced depression? We know that many suffering in isolation will benefit and I think the person “walking the dog’ will benefit as well.

Maybe that term can work? Walking the black dog in public can have many benefits. Both sufferer and dog get some healthy exercise, the dog is exposed as being not as mean and ugly as thought and others will be encouraged to walk their dog as well, with better health all around.



How do we help the helpers?

Tuesday, April 03, 2012

I was deeply saddened yesterday to hear of Bec Schofield ending her life last Wednesday evening. I have had the great pleasure of working with Bec a number of times over the past 4 or 5 years and was looking forward to working with her again next term. She was such an energetic, 'can do', positive person to work with, who had a powerful impact on the lives of a lot of young people.

I acknowledge that I don't know all of  the things that were going on in Bec's life, but can't help wondering if there isn't something more we can do to help people suffering unbearable stress in their lives. The special programs industry that Bec was a part of is a huge one these days and I don't doubt that many people working in the field find it very wearing. Though rewards come form helping people, it can be a frustrating and draining experience, particularly given the many beaurocratic