Every single day, in every single way, we’re getting better.

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

I must admit there are days, when the planets don’t align or the politicians are particularly pathetic, that I struggle to believe my own song. Sometimes it feels like it’s all uphill. But, as with everything else, hills can be gotten over.

Staying the course requires perspective and being able to recognise the silver lining - or at least admire the scary darkness of the cloud. When we’re toiling up those steep and slippery slopes, muscles aching and heart thumping, be mindful that when we reach the summit, rather than a lush mountain meadow, with butterflies, frolicking lambs and babbling brooks, we may well be confronted by a vista of more parched and rugged mountains stretching to the dauntingly distant horizon.

That’s when a sense of humour comes in handy.

Who remembers the ex prime minister who stated that “Life wasn’t meant to be easy” and some years later found himself outside his New York hotel with no pants and no reasonable explanation?

If we’re actively participating, the ups and downs of life catch us all eventually, but even the most shocking, scary or plain cringe worthy events can bring on gut busting hilarity after a sufficient length of time.

Or at least a wry smile.

The key is achieving distance. Perspective. To step back and admire the comedy of it all.

Life has a way of shrugging at even the greatest achievements, biggest disasters or most mundane non-events, but there’s always a laugh there if we look.

As my wife and Garfield (not the same person) would say, “Don’t take life too seriously, it’s temporary”
This week, let’s look for the laugh wherever we can.

And if it hurts too much to laugh, smile inside.

On a completely different note, take a moment to check out this music video of the band No Shame from Walgett Community School. It probably won’t make you laugh but it will definitely make you smile. Inside and out.

Peace of Mind. Every Single Day.

Friday, May 18, 2012

Firstly, my apologies for the two week break since the last blog,  and secondly thanks to those people who responded to the suggestion we find a way to encourage more people to talk publicly about how they manage and overcome depression. I've posted several of these and will discuss it further soon.

Today's blog addresses the issue obliquely;

It seems to be a part of human nature to continually strive to improve ourselves one way or another. Unfortunately for our peace of mind we are designed to rarely be satisfied for very long. I'm sure most of us have experienced the old pattern; the new couch soon needs a new coffee table, which needs a newly decorated room...soon we're talking a whole new house...

So much so, that the whole focus of sections of our communities and government is to foster continuous growth. Without it we face recession or depression with the resultant job loss and pain.... 

Fortunately, as we know, there are other ways to satisfy our yearning for improvement that don't require continuous "consumption" of services and products ---art, sport, education,music, hobbies and all sorts of personal growth strategies.

Just to throw something a little different into the mix, I'm launching a little project right here, right now. It's totally free and goes like this. Each week I'll send a Power Word, a short explanation of how to use it and encourage you to do something about it that day. It really works for me, (when I do it) and can be fun for all the family. Seriously. And it costs nothing but a little thought.

This weeks' word is "Communicate". I've always believed that half of the worlds' problems would just go away if we made more effort to talk calmly, clearly and thoughtfully. Today, communicate clearly to someone. Tell them something that's been on your mind or that will help them in some way. Before you do, be sure to think clearly  about the outcome. If the result will be good, do it.

Did I mention it starts with a song? This song has lots of Power Words and it's free. It's called Every Single Day

Happiness is a Habit ... Part I

Tuesday, December 14, 2010
Two Dingos
One evening an aboriginal elder told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, "My son, the battle is between two dingos that live inside us all.
"One is Evil - it is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego.
"The other is Good - it is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which one wins?"
The grandfather replied simply, "the one you feed."
Sing your own Song, and take responsibility for your own happiness.  The two dingos do live in all of us, and we all face the ongoing struggle everyday of which dingo we will feed.  It is sometimes easier to feed the evil dingo by our thoughtless actions and unrealistic desires.  Food for the Good Dingo can be more obscure, so there are times when this dingo gets a little hungry.  
We need to peel back the veil that prohibits us from seeing beyond our self and look further than the neighbor's new car. Yes, food for Good is stopping to help an elderly woman cross the street, listening to your child, cleaning the house, preparing a meal with your loved ones, feeling the rain on your face after years of drought, the sun rising in the morning.  Good is not just doing what is moral, it is as the cliche states; "stopping and smelling the roses."   Take a deep breath, appreciate the small things, and remember that happiness is found within you, not outside you.
Here's some food for Good.  Smile.  Smile today, because it is a gift worth giving, and a gift that keeps on giving back.