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Enhance Our World

Wednesday, January 15, 2014
I love pretty much everything about this time of year - the long hot days, the swimming, the fact I’ve just had a break with my family at the beach and am full of energy and enthusiasm for another year.

For me, this is the time to work ON my life and business, as opposed to IN -  to set clear plans, before the real whirl of the year commences with the beginning of the new school term.

So I’m working on getting my vision and goals clear.

There a lots of things I’ve learned from setting goals in the past and the biggest is to get ‘the vision thing’ right.

I’ve learned that to do things well we first need to believe - and to believe it helps to SEE clearly - at least in our mind. Then, committing our idea or ‘vision’ to paper enhances it by orders of magnitude...

To help clarify my vision thing this year I’m adopting a strategy from Justin Tamsett, that is centred on the word ‘enhance’, which means ‘to raise to a higher level, to intensify, improve, to make more valuable or fulfilling’.

Justin says to us “enhance demonstrates respect and acknowledgement that what you are already doing is working well’  - so to enhance our world we start by focusing on the habits, skills and processes that we already use to help us be happy healthy and strong, then identifying and acting on ways to enhance them.

These are the ways I’m going to do that this year;-

  • By being a student. Learning from others helps us improve and enhance our skills, our effectiveness and wellbeing. I’m excited to be committed to courses run by Shihan Nigel McReaddie, Rebel Black and Anthony and Zac O’Leary.   
  • Setting CLEAR goals. I’m doing a two day Boot camp in early Feb to ensure I really get my goals down clearly and then will evaluate and update regularly. These goals will centre on things that excite me to get out and DO. More on this next week.
  • Acting from love. We can look at everything around us as things, people or opportunities to exploit, or we can see ourselves as part of a fantastic universe to share and enhance.

How are you going to enhance your world this year? 

       


Play the game and win-win

Tuesday, August 07, 2012

"It’s not whether we win or lose, it's how we play the game". I remember when this was one of the most quoted proverbs in the English language. And now it seems such a quaint, old fashioned idea.

I have argued before that structured sport is the single most important factor in the building of a healthy, strong democratic society. This is because of all the powerful positives; -  teamwork, agreeing on rules that create a fair environment for all, sharing goals, the development of strategies, group skills and so on. However, call me naive, but are we just a little out of balance when we equate an Olympic Silver or Bronze Medal with failure?

I think the widespread soul searching so many of our fellow Aussies are tormenting themselves with at the moment is misplaced. Is it a disaster that a nation of 22 million out of a world population of 7 billion isn't in the top ten medal winners? Let's please not forget that we are still figuring in the semis in practically everything and the finals in a whole lot of things --and we have quite a respectable pile of Silver and Bronze. Let's also not lose sight of the fact that these are professional athletes we're talking about and that it's not necessarily a healthy thing when we idolise those who win gold and berate those who are still in the top 3 or 4 in the world. Where's our sense of proportion people?

Are we forgetting that these are the Olympic GAMES? Not war. Some of the players have a bad day, some are just unlucky, some miss Gold by a proverbial hair's breadth. Let's take a deep breath and celebrate the fact that the Aussies are still doing pretty well. Then lets' think about how, for most of us, sport is about personal satisfaction, bonding with family and friends, playing and socialising with others and just doing our best. It's about the teamwork or solitude, the tired satisfaction at the end, the planning a new season, working on new skills (or trying to maintain old ones) or maybe encouraging ourselves or kids with a reward for a goal achieved. It can be the endorphins we get from pushing ourselves to the limit or the relief of getting our minds off "real life" problems for a while.

This weeks' challenge is to be mindful of the values of sport played to the best of our ability. If you are watching, savour the thrill of the competition, admire the skill of the competitors, celebrate the spectacle. If you are playing or training, acknowledge the moves you do well, feel the joy of pushing yourself harder, the satisfaction of having made a good effort, welcome the challenge to learn or improve skills or fitness.. Remember, winning can be great, but just playing the game is always worth the effort, regardless.

This week, focus on the real values of sport or any activity. It really isn't whether you win or lose, it's how you play the game.

Have a great week. Look for the win-win.

All the Best,

Kim


For Harmony in life be consistent, fair and firm.

Friday, June 22, 2012

There have been many times during my life that I've noticed how we use planning tools and strategies in our careers but often neglect to apply the same principals to our personal and family lives.

 We have been struggling to achieve harmony at home. My wife Carol and I are one of the many modern families with a daughter living at home with children. Because the adults are all busy with careers and life choice issues, we are often stressed and easily distracted. As a result we can be short with one another, which has led to some uncomfortable moments and inconsistent behaviour management with the kids.

I imagine some of you will have noted the irony here, - I claim to be an expert on Behaviour Management strategies and yet have some unresolved issues at home. Sort of like the mechanic whose car is a wreck, or the plumber with a leaky roof. As a family we have struggled with being able to sit down and discuss strategy, so I have finally writtten out some goals, discussed them with my wife and then together with our daughter and the kids. The whole point is that we needed a plan as to where we want to go, and to agree, as a family unit, what we can do together to achieve it.

One of the tools we are using is SMART goals.

Along the way we've had some discussions with Centacare who run excellent Government subsidised family help services. They are professional, discreet and affordable.

We are now working towards guidelines we all feel are fair, and discussing ways to apply them consistently and firmly. Also, we recognise that a sense of humour really helps when dealing out discipline. After all, we're all in it together and a bit of shared laughter can help solve most problems.

  Ahh! the beautiful QUIET sound of  harmony.



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