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Play your Part....or Fake it till you make it

Wednesday, February 26, 2014
What’s one thing sociologists, marketers, Hollywood producers, politicians, teachers and the ‘person on the street’ all agree on?

That we humans love stories – and use them, consciously or unconsciously as roadmaps for our lives.

It’s probably been that way since the dawn of man. Our ancestors would sit around with the rest of the tribe, clapping with joy at the pictures drawn in the dirt of how the hunters managed to bag the woolly mammoth they were all now gnawing contentedly on. Then they would gasp with horror to learn how uncle Ugg was impaled on a tusk when his spear proved too blunt and his feet too slow.

Then, as now, stories provide important information about the world we live in. They warn or thrill, inspire and advise, motivate and help us imagine and set goals.

These narratives help us decide how we should look and behave, what to avoid, when to speak or when to run, the rewards we can hope for or consequences we will suffer, dependent on our choices or actions.

To bring this analogy right up to the minute, we choose our favourite book or film, be it Neighbours, The Simpsons, or Fifty Shades of Colour!  We then take on some of the characteristics of our favourite character and mock or shun the ones we don’t like.

The Logies season is here again and we are told that the best actors practise some form of method acting, “immersing themselves in their characters, to the extent that they stay in character offstage or off-camera for the duration of a project”.

They live the part. And there is the theme for this week. Have a good think about our character and make sure we are playing the role. Sometimes it’s about acting. Fake it till we make it, sometimes it’s about looking at our role model and asking, “What would X do?”

On one level it’s just that simple. We’re all playing a part. If we’re genuine about becoming a great footballer we practise and model ourselves on a footballer we admire – who has achieved their goals. We copy their training patterns, eating patterns, thought patterns, to help build our own character.

This week think about how you want the story of your life to go. Are you writing the script or are you being swept along like an extra?

I’m thinking about how I want my story to end, and thinking about what I need to do to make that happen.

I’m  writing a happy ending and WORKING towards it.

And I’m remembering to be careful what I wish for.

Enjoy the rest of your week. 

       

 


Enhance Our World

Wednesday, January 15, 2014
I love pretty much everything about this time of year - the long hot days, the swimming, the fact I’ve just had a break with my family at the beach and am full of energy and enthusiasm for another year.

For me, this is the time to work ON my life and business, as opposed to IN -  to set clear plans, before the real whirl of the year commences with the beginning of the new school term.

So I’m working on getting my vision and goals clear.

There a lots of things I’ve learned from setting goals in the past and the biggest is to get ‘the vision thing’ right.

I’ve learned that to do things well we first need to believe - and to believe it helps to SEE clearly - at least in our mind. Then, committing our idea or ‘vision’ to paper enhances it by orders of magnitude...

To help clarify my vision thing this year I’m adopting a strategy from Justin Tamsett, that is centred on the word ‘enhance’, which means ‘to raise to a higher level, to intensify, improve, to make more valuable or fulfilling’.

Justin says to us “enhance demonstrates respect and acknowledgement that what you are already doing is working well’  - so to enhance our world we start by focusing on the habits, skills and processes that we already use to help us be happy healthy and strong, then identifying and acting on ways to enhance them.

These are the ways I’m going to do that this year;-

  • By being a student. Learning from others helps us improve and enhance our skills, our effectiveness and wellbeing. I’m excited to be committed to courses run by Shihan Nigel McReaddie, Rebel Black and Anthony and Zac O’Leary.   
  • Setting CLEAR goals. I’m doing a two day Boot camp in early Feb to ensure I really get my goals down clearly and then will evaluate and update regularly. These goals will centre on things that excite me to get out and DO. More on this next week.
  • Acting from love. We can look at everything around us as things, people or opportunities to exploit, or we can see ourselves as part of a fantastic universe to share and enhance.

How are you going to enhance your world this year? 

       


Every single day, in every single way, we’re getting better.

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

I must admit there are days, when the planets don’t align or the politicians are particularly pathetic, that I struggle to believe my own song. Sometimes it feels like it’s all uphill. But, as with everything else, hills can be gotten over.

Staying the course requires perspective and being able to recognise the silver lining - or at least admire the scary darkness of the cloud. When we’re toiling up those steep and slippery slopes, muscles aching and heart thumping, be mindful that when we reach the summit, rather than a lush mountain meadow, with butterflies, frolicking lambs and babbling brooks, we may well be confronted by a vista of more parched and rugged mountains stretching to the dauntingly distant horizon.

That’s when a sense of humour comes in handy.

Who remembers the ex prime minister who stated that “Life wasn’t meant to be easy” and some years later found himself outside his New York hotel with no pants and no reasonable explanation?

If we’re actively participating, the ups and downs of life catch us all eventually, but even the most shocking, scary or plain cringe worthy events can bring on gut busting hilarity after a sufficient length of time.

Or at least a wry smile.

The key is achieving distance. Perspective. To step back and admire the comedy of it all.

Life has a way of shrugging at even the greatest achievements, biggest disasters or most mundane non-events, but there’s always a laugh there if we look.

As my wife and Garfield (not the same person) would say, “Don’t take life too seriously, it’s temporary”
This week, let’s look for the laugh wherever we can.

And if it hurts too much to laugh, smile inside.

On a completely different note, take a moment to check out this music video of the band No Shame from Walgett Community School. It probably won’t make you laugh but it will definitely make you smile. Inside and out.
       



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