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Note to self...It's up to me!

Thursday, September 18, 2014

The BIG iKi - Wednesday 5th November @ 12 noon

We all know our children are our future. We need your help to help us improve student outcomes in schools. Please.
It’s a simple as 123 ABC :-
1. The Big iKi is to highlight the powerful impact effective student engagement, clear, consistent guidelines and strong leadership can have on students futures. 
2. The Big iKi shows how technology and community partnerships are helping change our schools for the better.
3. The Big iKi is to help kick off the Safe Respectful Learners (SRL) Workshops Tour in 2015
How you can help for FREE :-
A. Grab something to use as an iKiStick You can make your own or you can purchase one before the day online at our iKiStore
B. Organise yourself or your whole office or school to join you
C. Click onto the website on the day.5th November at 11. 50 for a 12noon start on a smartboard, PC And do the 12 minute energiser.

Finally, send us an email to let us know you are taking part in the day so we can send you out all promo material associated with the event and catch up with you to see how the event went. 

Note to self.. It's up to me!

I’m guessing there aren’t many of us, when we’re being honest with ourselves, who won’t admit to having spread the blame when something hasn’t turned out as we hoped. 
Anybody who has teenagers in their lives encounters the buck passing phenomena on a daily basis. This can get painful when family members make poor choices but will take no responsibility for the consequences.
I recently came across a quote in a magazine article (about something completely unrelated) that read, “When we go to judgement our maker doesn’t ask anything about family. We are judged on ourselves alone” 
Meaning, of course, we won’t get a chance to blame our siblings or parents!
It struck a chord, so I was excited to read the following article at Flying Solo http://www.flyingsolo.com.au/ about an hour later. The headline was ;- 
“ Every time you start to complain about something, stop. Think about how you can take control of the situation and be accountable for it. ”
Their suggestion was that whenever something isn’t going to plan, use these two words ;- 
No. Excuses.
The premise for the No Excuses Mindset is simple. Every time you start to complain, stop. Think about how you can take control of the situation and be accountable for it. The author goes on to give 3 reasons why having the No Excuses Mindset can make you more successful and resilient. 
1. You will get what you want – faster
Have you ever said these words or heard someone else say them? "They haven't returned my email".
Or “I asked them for help and I’ve heard nothing back”

In this situation, ask yourself these questions:
• Do people sign a contract that says they will return my emails and calls? No, so therefore it’s my responsibility to email or call, not wait.
• Is our priority the same as the person we are asking for help or information? Often it isn’t, - in which case it’s up to us to do the follow up – or find another way to get the task done.
• If we need something done that involves somebody else, we’ll get it faster and easier if we take responsibility and “chase it up”.
2. It makes your success repeatable
When you start to make excuses about what other people do to you – or don’t, there is one big problem. What happens to you, good or bad, is not repeatable.
Conversely, if you adopt full accountability, you can analyse root causes for any situation that is within your control to ensure that your success is repeatable, and your mistakes aren’t.
Not accountable
"He didn't call me back, but finally did after two weeks. Why are people so slow?!"
Accountable
"When I follow up my emails with a call within two days, I always get a response within a week." 
3. Fear will subside
The best part about being fully accountable is that you remove the fear of not knowing. Not knowing how your customer or friend will react, not knowing if they'll call you back, not knowing if xyz will happen.
For the first time, none of these questions will matter because you will be in complete control.
You will have formulated repeatable strategies to create the outcome of your choosing.

In other words. No. Excuses. It’s up to us!

And how much nicer to be able to share credit rather than blame.
Taking responsibility for our own health is easy. A 12 minutes iKi Energiser done 2 or three times a week will soon add up to a new, energised you! Join now

All the Best,
Kim Macrae

DO Talk to Strangers!

Saturday, August 23, 2014
One of the things I’ve always admired about my Dad is his willingness and ability to talk to anyone, anywhere, anytime.When I was a child this was sometimes irritating, because of course I had better things to do than wait around listening to boring adult talk. But as the years went by I appreciated his attitude more and more. Not only was it interesting to connect with new people - and surprisingly often led to exciting developments - I learned some profound life lessons. It dawned on me that everyone wants to be liked, trusted and valued, but often hold back because they are afraid!
  
Growing up in a small country town it was normal to know and talk to everyone, but as I started to travel to other towns and then cities I realised that we are trained to NOT engage with strangers - not just from fear, but from a basic misconception ;- Others look, speak and dress differently, therefore they ARE different - and may well be dangerous. We’re taught to be afraid. And the media does nothing to change this – quite the reverse in fact. All news outlets know that bad news sells better than good and as a result 87% of information we encounter on an average day is negative. Yes, it’s been researched!

The bad news is brought to us from all over the world - but we internalise it and as a result, view our surrounds with a fear vastly disproportionate to our local reality. We hear a news story about someone approached by a “man in a white van” and fear there are predators in every street. The reality is there is on average one, that’s 1, successful child abduction in Australia every year. That means the odds of YOUR child being taken is 1 in 6,000,000. Yes, one in six million. But our perception is that it’s almost certain if we let our child walk around the block.We’re bombarded nightly with crime shows and find ourselves believing that every suburb harbours at least one garden variety murderer, and every second one a deranged serial killer.

Ask people if they think we’re safer now than our forebears were 50, 100, 200, 500 years ago and they reply ‘No, today’s world is more dangerous’. The reverse is true. We live twice as long on average than we did 100 years ago, not just because of better medicine and OH&S. Murder rates in all of the western world have steadily, consistently and constantly dropped for the past 700 years - from around 80 per 100,000 per year to less than 3. That’s 3,000% less chance of being murdered in our beds – or anywhere else.

We all “know” that city people won’t engage with strangers. But - using my dad as inspiration - I always make a point of striking up conversations – on public transport, in the street, at cafe’s, anywhere - with strangers. Occasionally I’ll encounter initial suspicion, but almost always am answered with enthusiasm, kindness and interest. Some people are overwhelmed that someone makes the effort to be friendly.

I remember an incident when I was 15, sitting in a public lounge watching people walk in the door. It dawned on me that they were just like me..a bit shy, unconfident and not wanting to stand out. Just like me they were all scared - of stranger danger, rejection, criticism. And just like me they wanted to be liked, to be treated as if they were interesting - and they wanted to meet and engage with interesting people.

One time, a friend and I were trying to get to China town in Sydney, late at night in a taxi. The driver had no clue so we got out in a dark street in a seedy suburb in disgust. We had no idea where we were but saw a group of men about our age hanging around some cars outside a run-down pub. They looked scary to us. Big, tattooed, shaved heads---which in those days was something only “thugs and sailors” did. They watched us as cautiously as we felt about them, but we walked up with apologetic smiles, telling them we were from the country and lost. 10 minutes later they dropped us outside a restaurant in China town they recommended, with thanks, smiles and handshakes all ‘round.

Of course, there ARE people ‘out there’ who will take advantage if we let them, but the overwhelming majority of strangers are just like us. Caring, friendly, interesting people who want to be respected and trusted. Just like us. People who want to live meaningful, loving lives - who may be someone who’ll have a positive impact on our lives. Somebody special we just don’t know yet.

All the best, 

Kim.

Ask and You Shall Receive

Wednesday, February 12, 2014
I finished last weeks’ blog with a promise of sharing an experience I’ve had that shows the value of being open to the world around us.

Before I continue, I will disclose that sometimes I’ve doubted this wisdom. I’ve always prided myself as realistic, pragmatic, and yes, a bit sceptical - in a positive way of course, I’ve added to myself.

After all, the world is a big, tough place and there are lots of dangers out there.

This attitude can conflict with the belief that good things really do flow to those with an open mind and heart, - and so there have been times I’ve struggled with it.

My dad has always been a great inspiration and example to me. There are many lessons I’ve learned (sometimes by initially ignoring them, to my detriment) from him. But one of the habits I’ve always admired,  that he practises brilliantly even at 90, I’ve finally taken to heart.

He will always go out of his way to say hello and find something positive to say to everyone he comes in contact with.

The thing is, it invariably brings smiles all round, but can lead to much more ;-

I was having a coffee with son Nick in Bondi a couple of weeks ago. We were discussing his upcoming three months holiday in South America and the fact that he was keen to sublet his flat for the duration.  A simple thanks for the great coffee developed into a conversation with the waitress who, she soon revealed, was looking for a flat closer to her work.

Two doors away is pretty close. And the great thing was we had already observed that she was a hard worker, neat and organised. Could be a perfect match.

Ask and you shall receive.

I’d love to hear any personal stories you have of similar serendipity.

By the way, the word serendipity means good luck and good fortune. And the point I’m making is that our attitude and actions help us make our own good luck and fortune.

Please share. And have a great week.

       

 


Dream, Believe, Act, Achieve

Tuesday, February 04, 2014
Last weeks’ blog finished with the proverb “ The teacher appears when the student is ready”. That’s certainly true for me at the moment. Tomorrow I commence two days of ‘Outside the Box Bootcamp’ with Rebel Black

It’s important to remember that the lessons the teacher has to impart may not necessarily be things we want to hear, but rather things we need to learn.

I’ve been talking to Rebel for years and she’s been encouraging me to do certain things. I knew she was right, but I resisted. I just wasn’t ready. Too challenging, too painful and it might not work -and then all that effort would have been wasted.

Which brings me to a desk card thingy on my desk called ‘The Daily Motivator’ which I (very) occasionally use. It has a card with a thought for every day of the year and you’re supposed to turn it each day and get motivated.

Today I flipped it and the proverb was totally apt - “First of all you must believe, but most of all you must ACT as if you believe”

It’s easy to be sceptical. I’ve been sceptical much of my life and know for sure that when we’re sceptical we always have ready-made excuses for NOT acting. On the other hand, I’ve seen so many times that when we decide to believe with all our heart and mind, and ACT like we believe, things just fall into place.

They. Just. Do. It’s a “vibe” thing. And more.

Next week I’m going to tell you about some of the things I’ve witnessed that have - finally - convinced me to stop the scepticism and let things flow.

Meanwhile, I have some homework for tomorrow and have to act on it - so here’s some homework for you.

Think of one thing you really believe in. Just one. I’m not even going to give you any hints. You decide.

Now, what action does that belief require? If you’re already doing it you know that it works.

But I bet you’re like me and have some beliefs you’ve let slip in the follow through department.

So. Now. Dare to try. Believe it. Act on it, - continually - and see it happen.

Remember “continually” is the key, and that Anything Can Happen!

Have a great week.

All the Best,

Kim

       

 


Who is Our Teacher?

Tuesday, January 28, 2014
When we stop learning we start to die.

Most of you probably know I am a teacher by trade and may also know that teachers are occasionally accused of being a bit, shall we say, “know it all”......

I know – ha ha – I’ve been guilty of that, but it really struck home late last year when I was attending a seminar conducted by an ex student, Nigel McReaddie, who trained under me for his first Black Belt many years ago and has since gone on to be a world renowned instructor and official in Koshiki Karatedo.

When we were discussing the seminar afterwards, Nigel remarked at “how much I had forgotten” his message wasn’t about how much I had known - but how much I had stopped learning and as a result was going backwards, fast.

To make the lesson even more obvious I was in the office of another ‘old’ student of mine, Anthony O’Leary the Principle of St Johns’ Primary school, and Subak Martial Arts School -  discussing plans for the coming year, when he challenged me by saying it was time I upgraded my professional qualifications.

The exciting thing is that since hearing - and acting - on those timely lessons, I feel ten years younger. I’m invigorated by being a student again, by the challenge of learning new things - and yes, the know it all in me just has to add -  relearning things I had forgotten.

Among other courses, I’m  taking a class every week run by Anthony’s son Zac O’Leary - kind of a student of student of student - figure it out, and I’m loving that most of all.

Remember the old saying. The teacher appears when the student is ready.

I’m loving being a grasshopper again.

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What Excites You?

Tuesday, January 21, 2014
It’s normal to be afraid of new undertakings. It’s very human to feel panic at the idea of doing something different. Getting out of our ‘comfort zone’ can be hard, even though it may be an unbearable place to be.

In 2000 when the Olympics were playing in Sydney, a friend had extra tickets and offered some to me - "enough for several days" spectating for myself and a family member.

I asked my youngest son, who was 14 at the time, to come with me, but he was reluctant and ended up missing out.

However, on seeing my excitement at the experience, Nick vowed to think twice about missing opportunities in the future. Since then he’s spent years journeying, studying and working overseas as well as in iconic Aussie locations, meanwhile ticking off an impressive bucket list. This year it’s South America for three months. Some of that time is scheduled with friends, some left open to whim.

His credo is to do what excites him, with the understanding that excitement comes from the exhilaration of overcoming fear, and doing what makes your heart sing, not sink.

He understands the necessity to plan and prepare properly. He keeps healthy, fit and strong, eats well and takes care to plan his actions rigorously before the event. But he also leaves room to respond to chance opportunities.

It’s his birthday today and I’m proud of him..and admiring his example as well.

This year let’s learn from youth and do what excites us.

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Enhance Our World

Wednesday, January 15, 2014
I love pretty much everything about this time of year - the long hot days, the swimming, the fact I’ve just had a break with my family at the beach and am full of energy and enthusiasm for another year.

For me, this is the time to work ON my life and business, as opposed to IN -  to set clear plans, before the real whirl of the year commences with the beginning of the new school term.

So I’m working on getting my vision and goals clear.

There a lots of things I’ve learned from setting goals in the past and the biggest is to get ‘the vision thing’ right.

I’ve learned that to do things well we first need to believe - and to believe it helps to SEE clearly - at least in our mind. Then, committing our idea or ‘vision’ to paper enhances it by orders of magnitude...

To help clarify my vision thing this year I’m adopting a strategy from Justin Tamsett, that is centred on the word ‘enhance’, which means ‘to raise to a higher level, to intensify, improve, to make more valuable or fulfilling’.

Justin says to us “enhance demonstrates respect and acknowledgement that what you are already doing is working well’  - so to enhance our world we start by focusing on the habits, skills and processes that we already use to help us be happy healthy and strong, then identifying and acting on ways to enhance them.

These are the ways I’m going to do that this year;-

  • By being a student. Learning from others helps us improve and enhance our skills, our effectiveness and wellbeing. I’m excited to be committed to courses run by Shihan Nigel McReaddie, Rebel Black and Anthony and Zac O’Leary.   
  • Setting CLEAR goals. I’m doing a two day Boot camp in early Feb to ensure I really get my goals down clearly and then will evaluate and update regularly. These goals will centre on things that excite me to get out and DO. More on this next week.
  • Acting from love. We can look at everything around us as things, people or opportunities to exploit, or we can see ourselves as part of a fantastic universe to share and enhance.

How are you going to enhance your world this year? 

       


Every single day, in every single way, we’re getting better.

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

I must admit there are days, when the planets don’t align or the politicians are particularly pathetic, that I struggle to believe my own song. Sometimes it feels like it’s all uphill. But, as with everything else, hills can be gotten over.

Staying the course requires perspective and being able to recognise the silver lining - or at least admire the scary darkness of the cloud. When we’re toiling up those steep and slippery slopes, muscles aching and heart thumping, be mindful that when we reach the summit, rather than a lush mountain meadow, with butterflies, frolicking lambs and babbling brooks, we may well be confronted by a vista of more parched and rugged mountains stretching to the dauntingly distant horizon.

That’s when a sense of humour comes in handy.

Who remembers the ex prime minister who stated that “Life wasn’t meant to be easy” and some years later found himself outside his New York hotel with no pants and no reasonable explanation?

If we’re actively participating, the ups and downs of life catch us all eventually, but even the most shocking, scary or plain cringe worthy events can bring on gut busting hilarity after a sufficient length of time.

Or at least a wry smile.

The key is achieving distance. Perspective. To step back and admire the comedy of it all.

Life has a way of shrugging at even the greatest achievements, biggest disasters or most mundane non-events, but there’s always a laugh there if we look.

As my wife and Garfield (not the same person) would say, “Don’t take life too seriously, it’s temporary”
This week, let’s look for the laugh wherever we can.

And if it hurts too much to laugh, smile inside.

On a completely different note, take a moment to check out this music video of the band No Shame from Walgett Community School. It probably won’t make you laugh but it will definitely make you smile. Inside and out.
       


Sometimes

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Joe Williams BoxerI’m going to deviate slightly this week from our usual “Word of The Week” blog theme.

The reason is, we have been doing lots of talking over on our facebook page lately about the “Sometimes” song.  And I really wanted to share some the back story with you.

The song was written almost two years ago in response to a period of intense grief - in an attempt to come to grips with life. Some of you will have seen early versions of the video clip. If you have, please take the time to look and listen again. Along with some new images in the video, there is now a guest singer who appears from the second verse who takes the song to a whole new level.

 It’s a tune about light, dark, good bad, happy sad, love and loss - and redemption.

It's about celebrating the diversity of life and remembering that no matter what is happening...in the words of the Dali Lama “This too will pass”

 It’s a reminder and affirmation that we ALL have good days and bad. That’s life and the universe.

Joe Williams has experienced the highs of playing for the Rabbitos, the Bulldogs and France at 1st grade level, as well as boxing at a high level and of being a hero and celebrity. He has also experienced intense lows from the loss of some of those things.

Joe now has lyrics from "Sometimes" tattooed on his chest.

When I asked him why he felt so strongly about the song he replied:

“I am a person who relates my life and how I feel to Music. Having said that, from the minute I laid eyes on the lyrics to 'Sometimes' I immediately felt a connection.

The song relates to feelings & emotions -to who we are & how we feel. To me, Sometimes, directly reflects how I feel & act everyday and knowing that everyone has, and is entitled to have a bad day. I related so much to the songs that I felt I had to have it tattooed onto my body - as a reminder that every day, somewhere, someone else is struggling and I am not alone in this! And it's OK.

But there are also great days and they will always come again as long as I look after myself, follow my dreams in a disciplined manner and keep the perspective. This is firmly imprinted on my chest - I see this reminder every morning.”

Please have a look at the video and see for yourself why Joe is so attached to the song - and it to him. And please share it.

Meanwhile remember what that wise old guy said... “This too will pass”

Here comes the advertorial; - iKiFit offers activities and tools we can use to manage the challenges and the moods - and make our lives better - to keep up our strength so we can handle the ups and downs, the challenges and opportunities when those "sometimes" occur, as they inevitably do.

 

 


Finding Common Ground

Friday, August 30, 2013

Finding common ground with others is one of the most reassuring things we can do. 


I had dinner with friends, Rebel and Michael Black, in Lightning Ridge last week. Michael has just recovered from a completely unexpected, life threatening complaint/situation/event that had struck him down out of the blue. The thing that we noted was that, although they had never heard of the condition before, they found that whoever they mentioned it to had experienced it personally or knew someone who had.

We then discussed, over an excellent home grown, home cooked meal, :) that no matter what is happening in our lives, be it bizarre, confronting, horrifying or absolutely wonderful, we never have to look far to find someone in similar circumstances.

If we look. 



In a teambuilding workshop that I run, we discuss “Car Salesman School” where trainees are taught that the best way to sell a car is to first get the potential customers to like you as we are more likely to buy from someone we like. The theory is that the easiest way to achieve that is to show them that YOU like THEM; - and the easiest way to do that, is to find common ground with the (potential) customer. So you can relate. 

They are taught to look in their cars – under the pretext of valuing it – to identify ways to establish rapport. Anything from sporting equipment to tastes in music or fast food can provide a conversation starter.

“Hey, I see you’re into footy. Who do you go for?”  

At this point we can come over all cynical about crass commercialism, but let’s stop and consider that we are all selling SOMETHING; - and most of us need a car. They’re just doing their job and when we think about it most of us know some very nice car salespeople. A lot like us.

Now let’s consider the tactics politicians use to persuade us to their point of view. How much of it is based around the illusion and fear of difference. They will have us believe the “others” aren’t like us, don’t agree with us and will take what we have?  It’s us against them.

Let’s stop and consider this. When we think of how different we are from others how do we feel? Often isolated and alone. Now think of a passion, a pastime and a problem we have and think of how many people we know who share or relate those things. Feels good doesn’t it, because it means we’re normal.

This week, let’s improve our normal. Relate to someone and energise your day.



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