Give yourself permission to SHINE!

Saturday, May 24, 2014
They say the teacher appears when the student is ready.

I recently did another workshop with Rebel Black -The Hungry Spirit

It wasn't all comfortable. After all, working on moving onward and upward involves risk, possible pain and definitely hard work. Things we all appreciate from a distance but don't always want to experience first hand. 

Part of the workshop preparation was required regular readings of some of Nelson Mandelas' Inaugural Speech, as follows;-

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. 
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually who are you not to be?
Your playing small doesn't serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others". Nelson Mandela 1994 Inaugural speech.

I know personally that the biggest thing holding most of us back is that nagging voice that tells us we shouldn't get "too big for our boots." That voice that makes us afraid of standing out - afraid of what others think.

That voice that can sap our energy - or gives us an excuse - to not do the work necessary to create and support our dreams. The often hard, challenging work we need to do, to get to where we want to go.

Martha Graham said "it's none of our business what others think about us." Kind of empowering.

A bloke I've know for a few years amazed me a few weeks ago with some rap songs he's written, but he wanted to get someone else to sing them because he didn't think his voice is good enough. It definitely is, he just needs to get used to the sound of it - and remember that he's his own worst critic, like the rest of us. The great thing is that after a bit of encouragement he's practising, improving and that energy is spreading. THAT's what living the dream actually is. Self doubt, yes. Struggle, totally. Effort, yes. But the doing it, is success in itself, no matter the outcome. Go Nathan. 

Remember, Sing Your Own Song . And to read a great take on "it's none of our business what others think of us click here

This week give yourself - and all around you - permission to shine.

All the Best,


Take optimism with a pinch of paper

Thursday, May 08, 2014

How to insure your optimism.

Those of you who have missed my musings over the past few weeks, please accept my apologies. For the foreseeable future I’ll be writing fortnightly, which will be more manageable for us all : )

This fortnights’ blog is inspired –in fact largely written by - Sam Leader, who co edits the great website Flying Solo. She says; - “Most of us will chose hope and positivity over its’ opposite any day of the week. But at times optimism can bear it’s teeth and bite us on the butt".

Optimism is generally agreed to be a Good Thing and is even associated with greatness. The oft-quoted poster sourced from a 1997 Apple advertisement states “The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do”.

But being optimistic can cloud our judgement and lead us to underestimate what’s needed to reach a goal. As a result, we can be underprepared and overexposed.

Part of the popularity of the UK house renovation project show ‘Grand Designs’ is to watch such falls from grace. “ Well Kevin” says the typical couple “We’ve budgeted £100,000 and want to move in by Christmas.” Then as sure as eggs are eggs, you see a shot of the incomplete project and a despondent-looking pair owning up to more than doubling their project time and budget’. That’s life. It’s mostly much harder to achieve a goal than our fond dreams and Hollywood lead us to believe. We jump through one hoop just to be confronted by another obstacle. On the other hand, satisfaction and lasting value only ever come from hard work and challenges confronted and overcome.

But before we undertake any goal, and at regular intervals on the journey, we should take some time to properly examine where we are and what is needed to successfully continue. That way we can better decide to put our heads down and tough it out, or to shift our focus to somewhere else. The trick is to know when.
Over 90% of people never achieve financial independence. It’s no coincidence that same % don’t ever write their thoughts, plans or goals. It can be literally the work of minutes. The process of WRITING our goals –or our deep life questions - helps clarify what we want to do in the first place, the difficulties we will encounter and the steps we need to take to overcome those difficulties and ultimately achieve the outcome we want. Sometimes, you’ll want to go for it sometimes not.

At the end of this SMART Goal sheet you’ll be asked if it is worth the time, effort and money.  If you still think you can do it, you probably can. It may be a lot harder than you think. It may not change the world, - but it sure can change you. And think of the satisfaction you’ll feel and skills you’ll learn from overcoming those hurdles, hoops and challenges.

All the Best,